Stop Caring About What Others Think Of You
“What other people think of you is not of your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life” – Deepak Chopra
In today’s fast paced world of TV and social media etc, it seems that every person has an opinion of everyone and everything. We live in a world where we are often judged by how we look, how much money is in our bank account, what job we work at, if we are single or married, have kids or not, our gender, education, race, cultural background, sexual orientation…the list goes on.
There are so many “judgments” that may be placed on us by society, even and maybe especially from our own family and friends. Often people are “coming from a good place” when they offer unsolicited “advice” on just about every aspect of us or our lives.
What do you mean you want to leave your well paid job to follow your dreams?
Don’t you realise that will take lots of money…where are you going to get it from?
I know people who did that and it just never worked out for them.
Are you mad? What makes you think it will be different for you?
I am only saying these things because I care!!!
Sometimes advice can be beneficial and wise, more often it comes from someone and their own negativity, fear and limiting beliefs about their own life. It us up to us to DISCERN what advice we ought to be following, what is right for us at any given point in our lives.
Over the years I have come to learn that the best person to make decisions for YOU and YOUR life …is YOU. In order to do this, we need a level of personal awareness, self-development, personal growth, quiet reflection and trust in ourselves. I am not saying, don’t ever listen to a piece of advice again or not to seek help and guidance when you need it.
Just remember, that you are the one living your life. No other person on the planet knows exactly what you are going through except you. Learn to discern when advice is well meaning and useful and ultimately always make up your own mind.
When we take on other peoples judgments and beliefs it impacts our own energy. If these are positive great, however we are often bombarded by negative energy from others in the form of judgments, criticism, limitations, negativity etc.
(Remember everything is ENERGY)
If you feel over burdened by other people’s judgments beginning practicing the art of not giving a dam of what others think of you.
“The most important person’s opinion of you, is YOU” – Deborah King